48 with a 3 year old
So my life is a bit backward. I’m 48 years old; most of my friends have kids in high school or even college. I however, have a 3 year old daughter. I’ve been married for 20 years, and my wife and I finally, happily, made it into parenthood.
What’s it like being an old guy with a young kid? Well, I thought I would list the Pros & Cons:
|48 YEARS OLD||30 YEARS OLD|
|I am financially stable.||I was dead broke!|
|Partying days are behind me, I am home every day at 4PM and every week end. I have put my girl to bed every night for 3 -1/2 years.||Wild man, bars, music, drinking, crazy, stay out all night.|
|I’m Tired.||Parenting takes a lot of energy.|
|I can appreciate and be more grateful.||Who knows what kind of Dad I would have been?|
|We are supposed to be enjoying our long term marriage, Travel, etc. Now we still travel, but we take Bayla with us and it is very different.||We traveled a lot over the past 20 years, unencumbered by kids. Had lots of fun!|
|Marriage is stronger than ever.||Over the past 20 years, we hit some rough spots and even separated once.|
|I will be an old man in her teens.||She would have been 18 now.|
So all and all if you look at the chart above… there are a lot of good reasons to be 48 with a 3 year old, assuming I can stay healthy. It’s just the way things worked out for us. We always wanted kids, but the years just flew by. I will say this, if I knew how much I would love being a Dad, I may have done it a long time ago!
All things considered, I HAVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER IN ALL MY LIFE, and my little girl is the most important thing to me.
Any older parents out there with any insight? Please comment